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Self Care (vii)

As I said in my previous blog post, it is difficult for us to allow ourselves time for self-care.  We do the basics – shower, hair cut, clothing, food – but it takes a conscious decision to set aside time to look after ourselves, especially in the midst of a divorce, and more so when we have lived with domestic abuse; self-care was not encouraged.  It is so important to give ourselves this self-care, because without it we will struggle to take care of our obligations; our jobs, our families, our friendships.  This next suggestion for self-care will be easy to relate to:

Take Time for a Nap


Self-care is about learning to love yourself again, and consciously deciding to take a nap every day is one of the simplest ways to do this.  Take a look at this graphic.


One of the main problems I have with napping is sometimes being left feeling groggy for the rest of the day.  I had no idea drinking a cup of coffee before napping could be a solution to this – despite normally avoiding caffeine, it’s certainly something I’ll try.  It’s also helpful to know the optimum length of a nap to avoid that grogginess.

It’s important to rest your body by lying down; sitting and napping can leave your body achy.  I prefer to nap on top of my bed with a blanket, but napping on the sofa with a cozy blanket is just as beneficial. Temperature and light are also important, so pulling the blinds and covering yourself for warmth – use an eye mask if it helps.




When the alarm goes, give yourself time to waken properly; don’t rush into doing the ironing or preparing dinner.  Take time for a warm drink, and become aware of the changes in your body and mind. You will be able to tackle the rest of the day with renewed energy.



I hope this has been helpful; remember your feedback is important to me.  If you like this, please sign up for notifications, and do share.

Sending out peace to you.







I am a writer and activist in the campaign to end violence against women and girls, often referred to as Gender Based Violence, or GBV. My book WITNESS was published in November 2016 and is available from,,, and all good bookshops. WITNESS tells Sarah's account of domestic violence together with the accounts and reactions of family, friends and professionals involved with her and her children. Extracts from WITNESS are published here. I live in a coastal village in the east of Scotland where I enjoy my glorious surroundings regardless of weather - Scotland is famous for having four seasons in one day! I love exploring ideas and beliefs, singing, reading and family & friends gatherings.

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